This is a game to play, not a question to answer — but it can be played well or badly, and the difference is worth setting out. The book’s two examples are: a weary, half-closed-eyed face for the expression tired, and a raised clenched fist for the gesture united.
- Two slips per person — one expression (something the face does) and one gesture (something the hands or body does). Keep the two categories separate; that is the point of the exercise.
- Fold, jumble, place face down. Draw in turn; 30 seconds per turn; no sound, no lip movement, no writing, no pointing at objects in the room.
- First correct identification takes 10 points. Two rounds, then declare the Non-verbal Champion.
| Expressions (the face alone) | Gestures (hands and body) |
|---|---|
| tired, puzzled, delighted, disgusted, suspicious, embarrassed, relieved, terrified, bored, proud | united (a raised fist), welcome (namaste), stop (an open palm), come here, victory, ‘be quiet’, ‘I don’t know’ (a shrug), ‘well done’ (a thumbs-up), ‘after you’, ‘call me’ |
- How much meaning survives without a single word. You will find that tired, disgusted and welcome are guessed almost instantly, while abstract ideas such as honest or expensive are nearly impossible. That is the real finding: non-verbal communication is superb for feeling and attitude, and helpless for precision. It is exactly why we need words as well.
- How much of a gesture is cultural. The Indian head-wobble, the namaste, the thumbs-up — none of these means the same everywhere. A gesture is learnt, like vocabulary.